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<p><span dir="auto"><span class="autocomment">I will become source of encouragement to other hurting people</span></span></p> <p><b>New page</b></p><div>==1) Recognize wrong deeds to be wrong deeds==<br /> <br /> ===Specify for his/her Behaviour:===<br /> Write specific actions that you need to forgive. This list should consist of behaviors, not personality traits. <br /> The focus of our forgiveness should be '''what other people did (verbs)''', not who they are (nouns and adjectives]. We should not try to forgive someone for being obnoxious, selfish, or evil. Personality does not need forgiving; behaviors do.<br /> <br /> List Behaviour here<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> <br /> <br /> ===The Damage===<br /> Identify the Impact of that behaviour on you; the Loss and the damage to you, your feelings<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> <br /> ==2) Recognize that your anger is not only normal, but necessary==<br /> <br /> *There was no excuse for this behaviour or conduct<br /> <br /> *I have the right to be hurt and upset<br /> <br /> *I have the right to seek retribution<br /> <br /> *I am truly disappointed from this behaviour<br /> <br /> *My hurt and pain is real, I have the right to be angry and furious<br /> <br /> === Grieve and Mourn===<br /> <br /> *I have every right to be angery, Actually Anger is the correct response to this, I need to grieve over this LOSS.<br /> <br /> *I have expressed this anger to my Heavenly Father through prayers, and discussed it with few friends<br /> <br /> <br /> ==3) However, Realize how ongoing bitterness will ultimately hurt you==<br /> <br /> (Warning: If I am not able to complete the above steps, I am not ready yet to forgive)<br /> <br /> *I am commanded by God to forgive<br /> <br /> *Forgiveness is for my own benefits<br /> <br /> ===I understand that===<br /> <br /> *I could have done similar things<br /> <br /> *I recognize my own need for forgiveness, will help to come to terms with others' wrong deeds<br /> <br /> *God has forgiven me for all my Sins<br /> <br /> *I recognize that we are all living in a fallen world and _____ is a victim himself<br /> <br /> * I will choose forgiveness because it is part of my life's mission<br /> <br /> ===It does not mean that===<br /> <br /> *I will forget the hurt and what happened<br /> <br /> *The relationship will go back the way it was, that may or may not happen<br /> <br /> *I would allow him/her to do this again<br /> <br /> ==4) The Decision==<br /> <br /> I have a choice to continue on hurting and continue to be angry, but I have decided to forgive, it is my choice, even though I may not feel like it, but I must do it.<br /> <br /> This means:<br /> <br /> # I Refuse to be in the inferior position and resist the desire to be superior<br /> # I must avoid the futility of judgments, letting God be the ultimate judge<br /> #I should release the pain to God<br /> #I should release the _____ to God<br /> #I should release the RIGHT to punish to God<br /> #I must break the bondage between the _____ and me, through anger and pain<br /> #I will find emotional freedom as I let go of the illusion of control<br /> <br /> ==5) Own-up to my own mistakes in this matter==<br /> ===I recognize that I may have contributed to this situation, by:===<br /> List your actions here<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> *-----<br /> <br /> ===Lord, forgive me===<br /> <br /> ==6) Actions I must take==<br /> <br /> * Release _____ to God<br /> * I will not attempt to punish _____ for what the actions done to me, I release this right to God.<br /> * I will not make any attempt to fix _____, that God’s job.<br /> * I have no expectation of an apology, nor am I seeking one, this is a purely unilateral act.<br /> * I have no expectation of recognition of wrongs, on the contrary, _____ will continue in these actions and behaviours.<br /> <br /> ===Should I confront the injuring party?===<br /> <br /> *My forgiveness is unconditional<br /> *The person may or many not recognize what he/she did was wrong<br /> *Jesus never confronted those who crucified Him, nor did Stephen!<br /> <br /> ===I will repeat these steps===<br /> <br /> I recognize that forgiveness is a process, it takes time, so I will repeat these actions, and every time, I will make progress until:<br /> <br /> *I no longer have no grudge or no malice toward _____<br /> *I will no longer have the right to be angry about what happened, as I continue to feel some pain about this, I will move on<br /> *I will recall the circumstances, without anger or pain<br /> *I will be able to pray for _____ and ask for God's blessings<br /> <br /> ==7) Freedom==<br /> <br /> * Thank you Lord for the freedom that I have gained through this process<br /> * Thank you Lord for the gift of Forgiveness that you have placed in me<br /> <br /> ==8) Here is what I have learned==<br /> <br /> ===I will learned to establish better boundaries===<br /> ===I will become source of encouragement to other hurting people===<br /> <br /> [[Category:Forgiveness]]<br /> <br /> [[Category:workbooks]]</div>

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